Can Mommy Have a Meltdown?

As long as we’re alive on planet earth, they’ll be challenges to overcome. This is definitely true for single parents especially single moms. My most recent single mom challenge involves finding someone that I trust – someone consciously awake – to care for my three-year-old son. Although I don’t need to explain this, I must state it anyway: A three-year-old is a toddler and toddlers have meltdowns and this is no different with my son.

Old Souls Among Us

He’s an “old soul” and thus does not mesh well with other children (or even an adults) who are physically present but emotionally unavailable. In other words, if he feels as if you are not listening to him or even trying to understood him then that adds to the fervor resulting in a power struggle and likely ending with a full-blown temper tantrum. Now the people closest to him can “control” him whether its with their words (or in my case – a belt which I don’t really need to use). But those who can’t “control” or “connect” with him are the first to resort to name calling or worse,  “diagnosing” him as mentally and/or developmentally challenging. To them I say:

Our children pay a heavy price when we lack consciousness. Overindulged, over-medicated, and over-labeled, many of them are unhappy…

A single misplaced response can shrivel a child’s spirit, whereas the right comment can encourage them to soar. In each moment, we can choose to make or break, foster or cause to freeze up.

When our children are just being themselves, they are unconcerned with the things that we as parents [as caregivers, school teachers and administrators] so often obsess over. How things look to other people, achievement, getting ahead – none of these issues that preoccupy adults are [on] a child’s agenda.1

After my final incident with one preschool, I realized that the way the owner talked to me is the same manner that he – and likely his staff – use toward my son. Honestly, his less than five-minute conversation with me left such a deep hurt – and I shouldn’t have let that happen but it did – that I started to wonder: Was I doing something wrong and if so, what was it? Am I letting my son get away with murder? Does he have a problem that I’m unaware of? Or is he simply just being a kid?

After a week or so of emotional agony, I woke up one morning just as the time was changing to 12:22AM on my smartphone. For some reason, I felt like that was a sign but I didn’t know why until I looked up its meaning:

Angel Number 1222 is a message from your angels and archangels that you are to stay focused on your highest expectations as the angels and Universal Energies work behind the scenes helping you to manifest your wants and needs, goals and desires. Trust that your home and family will be well provided for as you strive towards achieving your goals.2

Read that last line again! It was then that I felt Spirit [God] telling me its gonna be okay. It was like a confirmation of my son’s favorite line to me whenever he senses I’m upset about something: “Don’t worry Mama!” As I continued to lie there awake, I kept pondering these “revelations” and was soon reminded of something a doctor – a licensed medical doctor tell me out the blue: “Don’t let anyone convince you something is wrong with your child.” (Thank you Spirit for that reminder! 🙏)

Influx of the Indigo Children

Now I’ve never proclaimed that my son was innocent or a goody two-shoes because he is not. He can be aggressive and he is strong-willed. Most importantly, he can sense an uncaring, weak, or lying person (caregiver or not) a mile away. But if we must throw around labels, how about awakening our consciousness to the concept of indigo, rainbow, and crystal children. In case you work with children and you’ve never heard of these terms, it’s time you become enlighten.

The term Indigo Child was coined 17 years ago by Nancy Ann Tappe, a parapsychologist who developed a system for classifying people’s personalities according to the hue of their auras described in her 1982 book, Understanding Your Life Through Colors….Indigos that started arriving during the 1970’s have distinct warrior personalities. They will stand up and fight for what they think is right and what they believe in. They also know when they are being lied to and manipulated and will not comply with any system that may be limiting or dysfunctional. Indigos also have little or no tolerance for dishonesty. They are here to show us that the archaic systems in schools, government, parenting, and healthcare are not healthy and must change or we will continue to fail globally as a civilization.3

Simply put, my son is an indigo child and as Victor outlines in the video below, indigo children are super rebellious, highly intelligent, very stubborn, spiritually in-tuned, and have a strong sense of purpose (mission) regarding their life’s journey. In short, our school systems are so archaic, “spiritually asleep”, operating on auto-pilot, resulting in far too many of our children being misdiagnosed with ADD, ADHD, and a host of other illnesses, diseases, and disorders all in an attempt to “medicate” them into submission. Its time to break out of this broken, hierarchical matrix called education.

“After all, isn’t the child our ‘lesser,’ to be transformed by us as the more-knowledgeable party? Because children are smaller and don’t know as much as we do [about life], we presume we are entitled to control them. Indeed, we are so used to the kind of family [environment] in which the parent [teacher, administrator] exercises control, it perhaps doesn’t even occur to us that this arrangement might not be good for either our children or ourselves.”4

Please be sure to check out Victor’s video: 5 Signs You are a Indigo to learn more about the indigo child/adult traits.

Oh and by the way, did you notice today’s date: 12-22.

Recommended Resources:

  • The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Tsabary [Amazon]
  • The Awakened Family: A Revolution in Parenting by Dr. Shefali Tsabary [Amazon]
  • Out of Control: Why Disciplining Your Child Doesn’t Work and What Will by Dr. Shefali Tsabary [Amazon]
  • Global Village School – an international K-12 home school (or unschooled curriculum). Visit them online at to learn more.


1 Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of The Conscious Parent: Transforming Oursleves, Employing Our Children. Published in 2010 by Namaste Publishing.
2 Angel Numbers 1222 – Online post accessible here.
3 Starseeds, Indigos, Blue Rays, and the Rainbow Children: What are Indigos, Blue Rays and Crystal Children? (2013, April 11). Online article accessible here.
4 Tsabary, 2010.

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